The tethers of nurture and conditioning

Posted by Suman on Oct 25, 2020

The greatest gift a living organism has been bestowed with,

is its ability to express its innateness.

What truly satisfies a human is no different.

For his truest contentment lies in the ability

to express that which he is.

His superiority in having a versatile companion, the Mind,

even allows him to Understand this expression for what it is,

and thrive like no other species can.

And in so doing,

live the life that hides behind the labels of "god" or "superhuman".

Yes, humans are the incarnation of the Creator.

The Creator of everything that we see on this planet,

and everything that we do not,

yet.


You must be wondering how can the lines above be true.

For your life has not come close to the possibility of what they depict.

All you have tasted so far, are handful highs,

many lows and a lot of that which you call "your life".

But it is deep in your wondering, that the Truth hides.

One which resulted in the aberration in your Mind,

which then made you wonder in the first place.

The Truth, is this...

The human who doubts such an experience

is destined to not live it.


You see, the thing "doubt" only emanates from the Mind which is not free.

"Doubting" things is only one tether to and from the life you live Today.

For a Mind that is not free, has many tethers to itself.

These tethers are formed over time due to many reasons.

These reasons themselves can be traced up to two

(parent) reasons.

One is enough to plant the seeds of life long imprisonment.

But in most cases, both are in play -

1. Nurture

2. (Societal) Conditioning


The pull of either is very strong.

It is strong enough to pull the human into never questioning "his life".

While Nurture generates tethers in a bottom-up (or depth-first) fashion,

the manner in which the latter seeds its tethers is top-down (or breadth-first).

Each life-sucking in its own way.

The deepest tethers of nurture result in

a blinding attachment and need for others.

The variedly colored, shaped, and sized tethers of Conditioning result in

a blinding faith and reliance on the status quo.

And of course, most suffers the perils of both,

getting their Mind caught-up in and blinded by itself because of a mish-mash

from both of these.


But I must add...

Even "blinding" does not truly depict or justify

the black-hole-gravity-like resistance such a human feels,

in expressing their innate or even simply acting.

For every single intent of expression is challenged

by entire teams of sentinels of the Mind -

doubt, anxiety, fear, need to impress, need to improve,

doubting doubts, doubting anxieties... it just does not stop.

No wonder such a human has no choice but to dig themselves

deeper into their situation by getting help from others.

For though in that "help" certain tethers are uprooted,

giving them the illusion of happiness, progress, "I did it",

or worse, "See, I told you I have it in me",

the uprooting is only temporary.

More tethers replace them sooner or later.


Words fail.

They fail miserably.

Because all they do is paint a picture for the human who reads it.

And that painting done by his Mind, is a lie!

The intro paragraph depicting the ultimate experience of

being a human merely showed you a glimpse of the deep, visceral

and permanent contentment of such a living,

not just during action or expression,

but during every single moment.

The subsequent words depicting the hell-like torture and yet,

the not-even-noticed predicament that the normal person

happily puts up with, is only a glimpse of their

doused in struggle and conflicted life.

Nope.

Words will never be enough.

But it is the only medium we have.

Thank you.