What if, there is a crystal clear explanation available for all your present life concerns?
What if, the reason your friend, neighbor or your partner acts a certain way can be understood fully, to the very root of the matter?
What if, there are ways we communicate with or affect each other, that we do not fully understand?
What if, it is not just through words or facial expressions, but also through something unseen or unknown?
Something that the human mind is simply not capable of explaining?
You see, man by default, is not adept at truly understanding what is happening around him.
Man is really adept at making up his own versions of the happenings around him.
And that is because as he goes about his life,
he tries to "make sense" of everyone he interacts with and everything he experiences.
And that, my friend, is the very root of the problem.
Why?
Because the moment he succumbs to the desire to "make sense", he stops observing and starts a "doing".
A doing which keeps him drugged and occupied,
all while reality slips by one moment at a time,
and he slips farther away from reality.
Let us start with one of the most purported needs of man today,
which is also one of the prime ways one interacts with the other ...
Socialization.
Society deems socialization as "good" and "healthy".
And then it goes on to coin various terms for different "types" of people based on their "behavior".
Terms like sociable, asocial, extrovert, introvert, ambivert, shy, outgoing ...
If one considers the synonyms and any other "yms", the list of such terms is seemingly endless.
But I will ask you this ...
Have you considered, from where and since when did these terms come into being?
Were they not added to the dictionary when some "learned" people noticed specific behaviors and began "making sense" of them?
Next thing we know, more folks of the "curious" type came along
and felt a strong urge to make sense of the results of their predecessors' sense-making ...
So they began wondering ...
Is socialization "good" for "extroverts" and "bad" for "introverts"?
Is it "needed" for "shy" and "should be moderated" for the "outgoing"?
Do "introverts" and "shy" people need a specific "dosage" of socialization,
or they are better off without it?
Is socializing in bigger groups "better" than doing it in smaller groups?
- ...
These wonderings could not just vanish in thin air as they gave birth to the need to make even more sense.
So began publishings of multiple books on the topic, arguments and so on.
So began experiments, studies, gatherings, conferences and resultant theories, and the like.
So began more socialization for the need to explain the need for socialization.
So continued the process of making even more sense out of that which in reality, is non-sensical.
If I were to pick the noblest looking man from amongst such a crowd
and ask him about his thoughts on what I said above,
his default response will be one of the following ...
"So? what is your point!?"
"That is how mankind and society progresses and grows as a whole."
"That is how 'knowledge' is shared amongst society"
"That is how we learn and understand from each other."
"That is how mankind evolves and seeks higher 'knowledge'"
To which I will smile, nod and "agree".
How in the heavens could he understand !?
How could he understand ...
Socialization is driven by the need to make sense of that which the mind fundamentally is not designed to understand.
For he never paused to wonder ...
What did he lose amidst this craze of curiosity and the blinding need to make sense of everything?
What was that which he failed to take notice of, about himself and others as he continued to nod to society's default norms and practices?
If he did, he would have noticed ...
While he was frantically catering to his reactive curiosity and needs,
his default sense of peace and equanimity,
his ability to truly judge his surroundings based on just what he saw, heard and felt,
his ability to truly understand the human condition,
took a plunge into darkness.
And so did he, himself.
Thank you.